It’s an honour to be asked to be a bridesmaid, so go you! There’s a lot of excitement, anticipation, and joy in the air as the bride-to-be gathers her BFFs around her. You’ve got the privilege of being considered one of her nearest and dearest so now it's time to make sure you show up and be the best bridesmaid you can be.
This position does come with some responsibility, so let’s have a look at what exactly being a bridesmaid means.
1. Organise the hen’s party! We thought we’d start here as it’s one of our favourite parts! Some brides may want a part in planning the celebrations, and others may want a totally hands-off approach, but either way, the majority of the work is usually down to the bridesmaids. If you’ve never planned a hen’s party before, check out our ‘How to Guide’ for all the info you’ll need to know!
2. Visit bridal boutiques with the bride. You don’t have to attend every shop or every fitting with the bride, but it is usually nice if at least 1 or 2 of her BFFs are with her along the way. Make some time in the schedule, and even discuss in the group chat with the other bridesmaids who can be there to help the bride find ‘the one’ (well the other one, after the husband of course!).
3. Bring the zen. Wedding planning can be a stressful time, so you may find the bride-to-be needs to vent or take a breather and that’s where you’ll come in. Maybe you just need to be there to listen, or maybe she just needs to talk about anything other than the wedding, regardless, it's up to you to stay cool, calm, and collected for her.
4. Look after your bridesmaid dress. Traditionally it is up to the bridesmaid to pay for her own dress. Usually, this will be picked out for you, by the bride, but it is up to you to pay for it and organise any alterations as required.
5. Assist with pre-wedding events. We spoke about the hen’s party already but then there’s the bridal shower and/or kitchen tea, as well as the rehearsal dinner that you may be required to assist with the planning and preparation of as well.
6. Oversee any finishing touches. This can include straightening out the train, adjusting a veil, to organising the flowers girls etc.
7. Speech! Traditionally the maid of honour will say a few words at the reception, so if this is you, be ready for it! It doesn’t have to be a whole life story going on and on, a 3-minute speech that includes something heartfelt, maybe something funny, and what the now husband and wife mean to you, is all you need to include.
8. Get the party started. We’ve all been to a party where the music is heating up, but no one is game enough to be the first on the dance floor to get the party into the next gear. Well, girls, I’m here to tell you, at the wedding, this is your duty!
9. Touch-ups and toilet breaks. The bride will likely be run off her feet with people congratulating her, getting photos with the happy couple etc. So it’s up to you and the other bridesmaids to be there to assist with any makeup touch-ups. Likewise, when it comes to needing the ladies' room, the bride may need an extra pair of hands to help hold the dress.
These may be self-explanatory so we will keep them short and sweet!
With these things in mind, you’ll be well prepared to be the best bridesmaid you can be for your BFF on her big day! Remember there is a lot going on for the bride in the lead-up to her wedding day, so it’s up to you and the bride tribe to be there to support and take some of the load. It’s going to be a team effort, and ultimately it is a great opportunity for you all to bond over your shared love of the bride and her future partner.
Until next time,
House of Hens xox
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